The Reality of Postpartum Intimacy Changes
For many couples the birth of their child marks the start of a new chapter in their relationship, but for some the postpartum period can be a difficult time for their intimate relationship. Adjusting to the realities of postpartum intimacy can be challenging, but with proper communication and understanding it can still be a wonderful experience.
Changes in Intimacy
For couples who have just welcomed a new baby into the world, their focus will be on caring for the new addition, rather than connecting as a couple. This not only causes fatigue, but also a lack of desire for physical intimacy.
As well as the physical fatigue that comes with child-rearing, couples can also find that it can be difficult to connect emotionally as a couple in the same way that they did before their parenting responsibilities.
Reconnecting After the Postpartum Period
Couples transitioning into this period of their lives together should focus on communication and establishing new rituals to keep their intimate relationship alive.
Here are some tips to help you reconnect during this time:
1. Carve out couple time
In the midst of the chaos that comes with parenting, setting aside some time for yourself and your partner can help create a connection between the two of you. Whether it’s a weekly night out, a weekend away without the kids or just some quick cuddles with a movie after putting the baby to bed.
2. Appreciate your partner
It can be easy to take each other for granted when you’re thrown into the role of parents, but give your partner compliments as often as you can and show appreciation for all that they do for the family.
3. Talk about your changing roles
It’s normal for the roles within the couple to shift when a baby enters the picture, but it’s important to communicate these changes together and make sure that both of your needs are being addressed.
4. Be natural with intimacy
The idea of making a consistent effort to keep up your intimate relationship can feel forced and a bit awkward. To combat this, let intimacy come naturally and make sure both of you are comfortable with everything going on.
The postpartum period can be an emotional rollercoaster for couples and while there will be challenges to face, it doesn’t need to mean the end of your intimate relationship. By taking the time to appreciate your partner, talk about the changes in your roles and actively find ways to connect, you can make sure your relationship is as strong as ever.